Couples Mediation is a unique blend of conflict-resolution and coaching that is a way to identify and clear away the toxic material that poisons what otherwise could be a supportive and nourishing relationship.
Whether your relationship is new or seasoned, getting "conscious" about your relationship means getting clear on your joint intentions, commitments, and key problem areas that must be attended to.
Your current relationship may have the potential to become the peaceful, enjoyable, and supportive partnership you are longing for.
Many people come to us facing challenges and conflict in their relationship. It's easy to judge that the other person is the problem and to become convinced that leaving the relationship will mean the relationship’s “problems” go away. Most people find, however, that their next relationship is haunted by the same dynamics and patterns of conflict. Does this sound familiar?
We help couples discover and memorialize intentions and commitments through couples mediation, while securing them in a customized Relationship Agreement. Clearer than wedding vows and deeper than a conventional prenuptial contract, a Relationship Agreement is a blueprint to cultivate the natural affinity between partners; a vision for each individual's personal evolution; and a road map to navigate challenges together.
Couples mediation may occur as a practical complement or alternative to therapy/couples counseling. (See sidebar on this page to help you determine if you should seek a referral to a therapist.)
Unlike therapy, couples mediation is strictly solution-oriented and transforms dynamics quickly. The process is characterized by:
a clear, efficient process
a practical, problem-solving approach
focus on the present and future
focus on the strengths of your relationship
supportive coaching to interrupt unhelpful dynamics
This work can pave the way for fundamental shifts in communication and understanding between life partners. For you, that means refreshing your joint visions, solving your recurring problems, and forging thriving bonds filled with grace, ease, and inspiration.
"We so appreciate your efforts and care in meeting with us and putting this agreement together. We are feeling a shift in our connection as a result of our time together and for this we are very thankful. Your views and perspective have encouraged a proactive and hopeful course for our relationship."
-Unmarried couple after couples mediation session
"Thank you so much for your time and expertise. We both found the session very helpful."
-Husband after couples mediation session
What can you expect when working with our Mediators
Couples mediation can begin by meeting with us as a couple or each partner alone. As mediators, we are neutral and unbiased and will create a safe environment for open communication.
In our sessions, we bear witness to the dynamics of your relationship, and then tap into our knowledge and experience to help:
Explore surface and/or underlying issues in your relationship
Identify miscommunications and patterns
Uncover fundamental needs and interests
Provide a safe container to explore options
Get you unstuck
Develop win-win outcomes
Craft Relationship Agreements to intervene and address issues
Model non-violent and non-defensive communication skills
Teach conflict resolution skills to avoid problems in the future
Couples mediation can also be effective for:
co-parents who need help post-divorce to manage conflict with grace and avoid costly litigation
intra-family issues between parents and children, siblings, and more
Simply put, couples mediation may be the fastest, most effective way to strengthen your relationship. You’ll see and feel the impact immediately.
Some people call our work "magic." We call it getting conscious.
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We offer Clarity Sessions with an attorney/mediator to help you understand your options for moving forward as a family or transitioning apart.