Who is mediation best for—and who is not a good candidate?

Who this is for / not for:

For couples wondering if they can successfully mediate, even with tension or distrust. Not for those facing active domestic violence or severe coercive control (we screen for safety first).

Our approach:

Mediation works best when both parties are willing to collaborate and compromise, wish to retain control of the process rather than leaving issues for a judge to decide, and want to remain decision-makers in issues affecting their lives. Trust is not required between divorcing spouses in mediation, but respect is. Our process is intended for spouses who can work together as they move through this transition, even if trust has been compromised or certain discussions are tense. We create a safe environment where each spouse can speak and be heard, and ensure the process is directed toward outcomes that are fair.

Mediation may not be appropriate when there's active domestic violence, or when one party refuses to disclose financial information honestly. It is also not appropriate when there are severe power imbalances that can’t be managed, although Conscious Family mediators are trained and proficient at facilitation that manages power imbalances that are not overly severe. If mediation isn't the right fit, we offer alternatives including collaborative divorce representation or strategic legal advocacy.

What to prepare:

Reflect honestly on whether you can sit in the same space (virtual or in-person) and discuss difficult topics. Consider whether you're both committed to full financial disclosure. Prepare to discuss any safety concerns openly during your consultation.

Timeline + cost range:Our process typically takes 3-6 months from start to signed agreement, depending on complexity. Costs range from $5,000-$25,000 per couple shared.

Next step:Book a free introduction call where we'll assess whether mediation is appropriate for your situation and discuss alternatives if needed.