Your children can come through this whole.
Divorce is hard on kids. We hold your children's well-being paramount, and commit to presencing their needs in mediation. Couples who work with us are committed to discerning what is truly in their children's best interest, and to peacefully transitioning from couple to co-parents.
Here is how we keep children at the center of our process, and the work of Dr. Erica Ellis — a licensed psychologist and Collaborative Divorce Facilitator whose child-centered programs we share with the families we serve.
Children at the center — never in the middle
Clients appreciate mediation most when it comes to their kids. Even when they struggle to agree on everything else, they want to put their children's well-being first. Keeping the divorce peaceful, focused on what truly matters, minimizes long-lasting emotional injury to the children.
Who do you want deciding how you divide your property and parent your kids? Our clients decide for themselves rather than leave it to a judge, co-authoring creative solutions a court could never order — and a parenting agreement that holds up and supports your children.
The three relationships that shape your children's divorce
Your relationship with yourself
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Your relationship with yourself
You alone have the ability and the duty to protect your children from divorce-related damage. Painful feelings are normal — but left unaddressed, they can derail the divorce and your children's lives.
Your relationship with your (ex)spouse
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Your relationship with your (ex)spouse
The most complicated relationship of your life. You do not need to be best friends to be the best co-parents — treat it as a business partnership in raising your children, with the respect you would give a co-worker.
Your relationship with your children
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Your relationship with your children
Your children have unassailable rights in the divorce process. Even one parent committing to protect their mental health is a powerful shield, during the divorce and beyond.
The PROTECT System: seven steps to a child-centered divorce
The PROTECT System is a 7-step system that shows you how to take control of yourself, rise above your painful emotions, set new expectations for your relationship with your (ex)spouse, and build the foundation for a healthy post-divorce life for you and your kids. It will arm you with the solutions and tools that will allow you to take control of the divorce, rather than the divorce controlling you.
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Proclaim your power and responsibility
You alone have the ability and the duty to protect your children from divorce-related damage. If you don't take the lead and make the necessary changes to create a healthy future for your kids, it is possible that no one else will. The worst thing you can do is wait around for your (ex)spouse to change their behavior and give up hope of your kids emerging from your divorce without emotional damage.
The PROTECT System is the heart of Dr. Ellis's 30-Day Divorce Triage program — details and how to enroll are below.
Meet Dr. Erica Ellis
Dr. Erica Ellis, founder of Child Centered Divorce Journey, is a licensed psychologist, Collaborative Divorce Facilitator, best-selling author, and a leading expert on child centered divorce. As a child of divorce herself, she has lived and felt the pain that divorce can cause children and she has devoted her professional career to not only helping children heal from that damage but, more important, teaching parents exactly how to prevent that damage from happening in the first place.
You can reach Dr. Ellis at Erica@Childcentereddivorcejourney.com.
Dr. Ellis's programs for parents
If you could protect your kids from divorce-related emotional damage, reinvent your co-parenting relationship, save thousands of dollars in the process, and could do it in 30 days, would you be interested? Dr. Erica Ellis is inviting you to invest in your kids and give them the greatest gift — a lifetime of happiness and thriving, free from the emotional trauma that an ugly divorce can cause.
The 30-Day Divorce Triage
How to effectively co-parent, even in a high-conflict divorce: the full PROTECT System, a 7-step program that focuses on the three major relationships in your life — with yourself, with your (ex)spouse, and with your children.
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How to Co-Parent with a Narcissist
This three-module program is aimed at helping parents learn how to protect themselves and their children from the emotional damage that divorcing a narcissist so often causes. Parents will learn how to differentiate a true narcissist from a poorly behaving (ex)spouse, how to break the unhealthy interactional pattern that they have been caught up in during the marriage, and how to empower themselves to best protect their children and become a role model for healthy behavior.
Ask Dr. Ellis about the programChild Centered Divorce Starter Kit
If you're serious about getting to a healthy post-divorce where your kids are protected from emotional pain, your relationship with your former spouse is redefined and more amicable, and you are saving thousands of dollars on legal fees and therapy bills, then Dr. Ellis invites you to request a complimentary copy of the Child Centered Divorce Starter Kit.
Request your free starter kitThese programs are Dr. Ellis's own; Conscious Family Law & Mediation shares them as a resource and has no financial interest in them.
How we keep children first in our own process
Whether you're mostly cooperating or in conflict, a child-centered process with us looks like this:
- Keeping the social, emotional, developmental, and physical needs of your children the priority.
- Identifying the issues important to you and your children, and resolving them at the mediation table rather than in a courtroom.
- Diligent work to ensure you obtain fair and effective legal agreements that hold up over time and support you and your children.
- When it helps, a referral to a child expert for a one-time consult or ongoing counseling to clarify a child's best interests.
- A trusted directory of child and teen therapists, co-parenting coaches, and co-parenting tools in Boulder and Denver.
- Staying focused on peacefully transitioning from couple to co-parents — with our help resolving disagreements after the divorce, too.
Divorce is hard on kids.
It doesn't have to leave them traumatized.
Talk with us on a free 15–20 minute intro call, or call (303) 415-2040. For therapists and co-parenting tools we trust, see our Children & Teens resources.
